New York: NYARC Update on January 15, 2020 OBC access

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We have been given limited information from our DOH contacts—as others may have received—that the state and city are both “diligently” working on the application forms but such forms are not yet available or fully developed. We have been advised that there will be a webinar with all applicable agencies sometime during the week of 1/6/20 to help make the process more efficient. Continue Reading →

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If passed, instead of receiving their Original Birth Certificates upon request, without restriction, Lucky Bastards will receive a court -generated document— a copy of their Report of Adoption form. The form is routinely sent by the court to the Wisconsin Office of Vital Statistics after an adoption is finalized, to request the Amended Birth Certificate be issued. It includes the names of the child, birth and adoptive parents and other OBC information. Continue Reading →

My American Christmas Adoptee Horror Story

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Many adoptees online (and I assume off) dread the coming of Christmas. They talk of sadness, loneliness, dissatisfaction, stress, anger, and fear. Some emotions are vague and hard to pin down; others quite concrete. I believe absolutely every person who talks out their feelings and experiences. Even though I empathize, I feel like an insensitive outlier. Christmas, other holidays, and birthdays have no negative effect on me. I have no idea why. Being a fatalist and nihilist I just expect shit to happen. Maybe there is more to it. Perhaps I compartmentalize well, or I’m in the infamous fog, or I’m a sociopath, or I am over-traumatized, or I just don’t care. Since I don’t care about a lot of things everyone else does  (and visa versa) that may be the correct answer. Continue Reading →

Adoptees are not adoption. Adoption is not a reality show.

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I consider these numerous news stories to be adoption porn, especially since this finalization took place on Kent County, Michigan’s  Gotcha Day, December 4. Or rather Sealed Records Day. Or Adoptee Erasure Day. Or Child Scoop Day.. Or Adoptee SaIvior Day (race and religion optional but white and  Christian preferred).  Continue Reading →

Action Alert: Massachusetts H1892/S1267 Fill the gap. All MA adoptees deserve their OBCs

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H1892 and S1267 are currently in the Joint Committee on Public Health. These companion bills are clean and probably the shortest OBC access bill in history. When enacted the gap between the haves and have nots, the worthies and the unworthies, will be closed,  and the right of all Massachusetts adoptees, without restriction, to their own OBCs will be restored. Continue Reading →

Wisconsin SB 521: What in the world is Wisconsin doing?

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f passed, instead of receiving their Original Birth Certificates upon request, Lucky Bastards will receive a copy of their Report of Adoption.form, The form is routinely sent by the court to the Wisconsin Office of Vital Statistics after an adoption is finalized, to request the ABC be issued–if the adoptive parents have requested a new certificate. It includes the names of the child, birth and adoptive  parents and other OBC information. Continue Reading →

Happy Thanksgiving and NAAM from Catholic Charities

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Here ‘s the Happy NAAM greeting: a paper doll family held in the hands of a white child whom I assume is an adoptee holding the family together Personally I don’t think any child should tasked with that kind of responsibility. Unfortunately, in AdoptionLand I’ve met plenty of adoptees who were. What if she goes bad and sets the family on fire? Continue Reading →

Happy Belated Gotcha Day!

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Gotcha Day was Saturday. I apologize for missing our “special day,” when OBCs are sealed en masse and adoptees enter the Adoption Witness Protection Program. Don’t despair!  Better late than never, I found this song tonight just for us.  Gotha Day by Ann Pence. Continue Reading →

My New Town, Moody, Texas: 91 year old adoptee finds birth family

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Phil Ratliff is an LD,A. He learned by accident, at the age of 21, on what he calls a “bad day,” that he is adopted. He then buried it to avoid hurting his adoptive parents.  When he finally confronted them, 20 years later, they apparently refused to discuss the adoption, Continue Reading →