Category Archives: Adoption

Abortion and Parenting are Equally Bad: Ken Connor and the Topsy-Turvy World of Adoption and Abortion

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Ken Connor ubiquitous abortion hater cum adoption worshiper, made an appearance today in the Christian Post. In his column Abortion and Adoption; Two Choices, Worlds Apart Connor groused over the lack of newborns available for adoption. Unmarried women who don’t place their children in “loving adoptive homes” are short changing themselves and their children. (Fathers aren’t mentioned.)
Connor lectures that adoption is win-win-win without asking bastards or their birthers how they feel about it. Picking up the pillow talk where Richard Land left off, the other day, Connor rhapsodizes on motherhood and mothers, especially the mother who becomes, as some first mother activists say, the “not mother”. The woman who is a mother but not a mother due to act of adoption., Continue Reading →

Dead Russian Adoptees: The White Book, a Russian resource

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White Paper (Book):Victims of Foreign Adoption is a Russian web source on the abuse and deaths of Russian adoptees in the United States and elsewhere. It includes an English language translation The English, though, seems to be done by bot and it’s not totally reliable, (ex. White Book translates as White Paper) but gives a good idea of what is in the original. Continue Reading →

Richard Land Sent to the Woodshed: Bastards have the wrong dad

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Richard Land has itched my trigger for a long time, and now he’s itched everybody else’s trigger in AdoptionLand

Land. the president of Southern Evangelical Seminary and former head of the Southern Baptist Conferences’ Ethics and Religious Liberty Committee, published a preposterous pierce of adoptionist propaganda the other day in in the Christian Post, entitled Adoption: The Best Answer. Written in honor of National Adoption Awareness Month, of course. Continue Reading →

Stupid AdoptaComment of the Day: Women should have government licence to have a baby or lose it to adoption

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As usual, of course, no matter how neutral a subject may be, discussion quickly disintegrated into talk of “Joos” Commies, weepy Christians, and gay sex practices..

Then this popped up, posted by someone calling himself “seeitnowW”

CopsWomen have 2 rights that men don’t – the right to bear children at will and the right to unilaterally end the life of an unborn child. The time has come to require a woman to obtain a license to bear a child. The issuance of such a license would require approval by a government agency that would evaluate the ability of the woman to reasonably be able to provide for the child’s welfare. The absence of the license would give the state the right to take the child from the mother and place it in an adoptive family. Creating new citizens in a social democracy is serious business as we all share in the cost and suffer the consequences of poor breeding decisions. The incentive to bear children and thereby obtain free stuff – food, shelter and money from the government would disappear when a woman knows that the child will be taken away. Continue Reading →

National Adoption Awareness Day: “Calling out” cermonies shill adoptables

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I had never heard of “calling out” ceremonies until two days ago. I haven’t done any extensive research on this activity, just a quick Google look, but I’m betting this goes on in other places. Why? The harm caused to children by adoption fairs (which have their roots, as do many current adoption marketing schemes, in pet rescue), cross-country adoption visitations, and other public adaption stunts where potential adoptees expected to act like well-behaved trained monkey to find a forever home, is well documented. Is calling out–hawking children on the steps of the statehouse– any better?

I don’t think so.

Both demean and degrade. They create a special status; that of adoptable consumable with issues that nobody wants rivaling a the cute and cuddly HWI with future issues that everybody wants..You will never see see a healthy white newborn called out in the public square. Continue Reading →

Yana and Toli Kolenda: Two Murdered Russian Adoptees You Never Hear About

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There are indeed 20 Russian adoptees that we know of who have been murdered by abuse or neglect. in the US, but the “official” count is 17 (though that can be disputed due to a couple of acquittals, even if the evidence showed otherwise) because the deaths of the other three do not follow the pattern of Russian adoptee murders. Their deaths had nothing to do with their adoptive status, nor were they abused, neglected, or isolated from the community.
On October 20, 2002, Yana and Toli Kolenda, more than five years after their adoption, and their adoptive mother Gienia, were murdered by their depressed out-of-work adoptive father Richard Kolenda who then committed. suicide. In 2010 Kirill Kazankov, (adopted name Jackson Atusso,) 8 was brutally murdered by a teenage stranger during a family outing. Neither the Russian government nor media has cited these cases in their condemnation of the American adoption system.

I am writing about the Kolendas tonight and Kirill Kazankov in a day or so. They are not footnotes and deserve their own separate entries.. I will also add them to In Memoriam. Continue Reading →

The Perils of NaBloPoMoing (only a little about adoption)

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t’s a good thing I got my blog out early yesterday. Last night my modem died, and with it access to the Internet and my dearest bastards.

I’ve counted many reasons why I might not pull off NaBloPoMo this year. The modem wasn’t one of them. What could keep me quiet:: my work schedule, an electrical storm, the electric shut off, falling asleep, and the most common –nothing to say. Some days it’s stretch, Continue Reading →

Gotcha Day: Turning the private into the public

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Wiki says that Gotcha Day comes from animal rescue/ pet adoption (just as “forever family.”) I don’t know when it began to refer to humans.

I first heard about Gocha around 15 years ago. I was immediately squicked. Gotcha sounds like trapping a rat under the stove or grabbing up the last flat screen TV on Black Friday at Wal-Mart. It’s a predatory term. A scary tern. A cheap term. A violent term. Gotcha relates adoption to aggressive consumerism; and consumerism to a public act of virtue. Daniel ibn Zayd writes that , Gotcha moves the private into public space: Continue Reading →

Our Bastard Moments: Real everyday adoption awareness, not just for November

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We’re having a discussion today on the Bastard Nation Facebook page on The Bastard Moment. Those times when as an adoptee you are insulted, embarrassed, patronized, degraded, demeaned, dishonored, silenced due strictly to your adoptive status. It’s part of the legislative process, but it’s also part of the personal process in the construction of Class Bastard.

Bastard Moments often occur out of no where when bumblers make rude, gratuitous. yet genuinely clueless and innocent remarks about your adoption, usually built around the theme of gratitude. My favorite is, “aren’t you glad you weren’t brought up in a trailer park?” Actually, I know adoptees in rural southern Ohio who were! I call them Bastards on Blocks) Continue Reading →