Category Archives: Adoption

Adoptee Deportation: State-sponsored Adoptee Abuse

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The vigil brought one thing home to me: Adoption is how adoptees live abstracted lives without context, beginnings, endings, or agency. The rules are made and played by patriarchy, church, and state with all their subsidiary isms, ideologies, and agendas. For the first time, viewing the vigil performances, I seriously considered–felt–what it is really like to be sent away, first via shuttling us down the adoption chute—then through a second shuttle through the state. Adoption is analogous to deportation. To exile. No matter what happens later, we never really have a home we can go home to–and certainly not by state force. No home is ever forever. Continue Reading →

National Adoption Awareness Month 2020: Using NAAM as an Instrument of Subversion

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A lot of people complain that adoptee voices are stifled, especially during NAAM, but I think that’s a big mistake. I believe that since NAAM was established, the month has slowly become ours—despite the refusal of lawmakers, “pro-choicers,” and entitleds  to grasp that we are hijacking their celebration. Sure, there is definitely a happy-dappy overlay, including National Adoption Day, but over a 20 year period, I’ve seen a lot of change. Class Bastard has stepped forward and grabbed the narrative. Continue Reading →

Bethany Pimp-a-Thon, Part One: Money Changes Everything

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Does anyone really believe that Bethany has switched out its 70+ year history of coerced birth and relinquishment, promotion of secret adoption, sealed birth certificates and adoption records lobbying, and overt adopteephobia for a beefed-up “global family care” mission? The “global mission” simply tugs at heartstrings of prayer warriors and the pursestrings of donors while it keeps the agency’s raison d’ etre–adoption and child profiteering– running in the background. Continue Reading →

Pro-lifer: Adoptees are terrorists

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Adoptees are terrorists.  Adoptees are also a (Satanic?) cult, insane, ungodly, and bullies. Posts I didn’t include here refer to us as “dark” and “doom” fill-in-the-blank….Adoption is the queen of intersectionality.  I talked about that for years before I ever heard the actual term “intersectionality,”  which is, of course much more detailed and diverse than what I was talking about.  That said, race, class, sex, gender, abortion,  misogyny, economics, consumerism, social welfare, reproductive rights, reproductive justice, public policy, religious wars, culture wars, colonialism, neo-imperialism, immigration and citizenship, Real ID, neo-liberalism. taxes, natural disasters, redistribution of wealth (especially children), narcissism, Supreme Court nominees. Class Basrtard is embedded in them all. Continue Reading →

Eliminating Illegal Adoptions the Baby Box Way or Today’s WTF Moment in AdoptionLand

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I have no idea where this comes from. I have never heard any traditional Safe Haven advocate make such a crazy claim. Perhaps it was a slip of the tongue–or better yet–a Freudian slip. Or maybe Znachko was echoing the conspiracy theory developed by SHBB’s sister organization, Hope Box in Marietta, Georgia that pushes the idea that baby boxes will save newborns of sex workers and trafficked women from being sold into sex slavery at birth. (SHBB has never used this argument.).Or maybe she’s suggesting that dissatisfied adopters need to stick their forever adoptees into a box rather than re-homing her or him on Craig’s List. Continue Reading →

Get ‘Cher Rocks Off. A Writer’s Remembrance of Paid My Dues

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I was told later that I was breaking new ground. with “Get ‘cher Rocks Off.“I doubt I was the first to write about sexism in rock by a long shot, but who knows—and who knew? A reference to it even occurred in (I think) The Whole Earth Catalog or at least a related big-book publication. Continue Reading →

Another Cloying Adoption Story: Safe Haven Baby Box girl gets adopted; new father says weird stuff

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So, while some people adopt to replace a child they lost either in a miscarriage/stillbirth or later in life, the Stayers went looking for…replacement parents. Seriously!

We just thought, “Who is going to be there to take care of our personal stuff after we are gone? ” That was one of the reasons we decided to adopt. Continue Reading →

Resources: Haiti Adoption. What’s the background? Why is it a big deal with Amy Coney Barrett?

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With the nomination of Haiti “orphan” adopter Amy Coney Barrett to the US Supreme Court, Haiti and Haitian orphans are back in the news–hot and sweaty with adoption mythology, white saviorism, and lots of political and religious bashing. If you are not adopted, the subject may not be important to you. If you are adopted, it is. Continue Reading →

The Mark Crutcher Shit Show: Adoption: the Real Story or Theocratic Fantasy

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If a match were not made–then the federal government would issue a permission-to-abort certificate. He knows, of course, this would never happen, because the product of every unwanted pregnancy would end up in the adoption mill–most likely Christian.  Under this win-win-win scenario, abortion would disappear from the country since every fetus baby would be wanted by somebody, (though molesters and pedos need not apply. ) No baby would be unwanted; no woman forced to rear a baby she didn’t want.–though he never elaborate how this satisfies women who don’t want to be pregnant. Continue Reading →