Happy Belated Gotcha Day!

Gotcha Day was Saturday. I apologize for missing our “special day,” when OBCs are sealed en masse and adoptees enter the Adoption Witness Protection Program. Don’t despair!  Better late than never, I found this song tonight just for us.  Gotha Day by Ann Pence. Continue Reading →

My New Town, Moody, Texas: 91 year old adoptee finds birth family

Phil Ratliff is an LD,A. He learned by accident, at the age of 21, on what he calls a “bad day,” that he is adopted. He then buried it to avoid hurting his adoptive parents.  When he finally confronted them, 20 years later, they apparently refused to discuss the adoption, Continue Reading →

Reommended Reading: Daniel Drennan ElWar’s 30 Answers to 30 Questions.

Daniel totally nails our condition. He links it/us to other marginalized groups and addresses adoption in relation to colonization, neo-imperialism consumerism, white supremacy, privilege, class, economics, misogyny, and our relationship to the state. , The intersections that adoption industrialists and many adopters find inconvenient, threatening, and certainly don’t have anything to with their “forever family” functionality: Continue Reading →

Bastard Nation Letter to PEI Assembly: Reject Bill No, 29

Bill No. 29 clearly holds PEI’s adopted citizens to a greater set of birth record access requirements than the not-adopted who can access their record for the asking, Disclosure and contact vetoes, fines and jails cells all go against best practice adoption standards. These provisions are not only insulting to PEI’s adoptees but are cruel and ugly. They pathologize adoptees and adoption as a social institution. They make adoption and adoptees shameful and suggest to the public that we are dangerous. Continue Reading →

Action Alert URGENT! Prince Edward Island Bill 29. Contains veto and criminalizes contact. Vote No!

In the name of “adoption reform, the Prince Edward Assembly is attempting to sneak a bill through that will continue to abrogate the right of the province’s adoptees to access their Original Birth Certificate, without restriction or conditions. Assembly Bill No. 29 was introduced and received the first reading on November 20 and received a second reading the following day. A final vote can take place as early as this coming Tuesday, November 26. Continue Reading →

Prince Edward Island: New bill contains vetoes and criminalizes contact

If you think your state or province is bad, try this on for size.  The bill contains the following provisions:

*disclosure veto
*criminally enforceable contact veto with a threat of a $5,000 fine and 1-year jail term
*prohibits adoptees from “publishing any identifying information about the person who provided the content preference.” Continue Reading →

Today’s Dumbest Adoption-Abortion Tweets

It’s not like there’s isn’t a huge bank of stupid Tweets to choose from. Most of them can be summarized as (1) adoption not abortion  (no details) and (2) would you rather have been aborted?  If you answer “Yes”  you will be judged insane, depraved, selfish. ungrateful, in need help, an object of pity, or you should just go off yourself. Continue Reading →

Bastardette’s Top 13 Adoption Songs for NAAM2019

A couple of times a year people post their Top 10 Favorite Songs. I always check them out, but find most of them pretty weepy and womb-crawling.–like a  safe space playlist for your office..So, for the last few days I’ve been checking out my own playlists to come up with adoption-related: pieces. Continue Reading →