Gee, I go away for a day and find adoption annoyances multiplying like bunnies. I’d originality planned to write a little analysis about each post, but at the rate it’s going, if I do that I won’t have time to write my own annoyances. So, instead Ill just put down links with a brief quote from each. Trace DeMeyer has issued a second annoyance with some excerpts from Katheryn Joyce’s “Shotgun Adoption,” which appeared in the September 4, 2009 issue ofThe Nation. QUOTE: CPCs (Crisis Pregnancy Centers) might persuade reluctant women by casting adoption as redemption for unwed mothers’ “past failures” and a triumph over “selfishness, an ‘evil’ within themselves. Barbara McArtney guesting on Reformtalk writes about the corruption of international adoption. QUOTE: Every country the Industry enters has been dirtied and only created problems and anger in its wake. If this is such wonderful, helpful work, where’s the accolades from countries, HR groups and ANYONE outside the industry? It faces nothing but criticism from all but its insiders. There has been a lack of any meaningful enforcement or improvement. Just the same rush to country to make as much money as possible before it closes due to their own illegal Continue Reading →
The second entry in Why the Adoption Establishment Annoys the Heck Out Me blog week is Adoption Echos blogger Joy Lieberthal (Song Eun Hee). Joy is a Korean adoptee and clinical social worker specializing in issues of adoption. Her primary work is with children and young adults helping them to understand how adoption fits into their identity. She also works with adoptive parents. In her entry Joy’s discusses the over arching validity of pap and adoptive parent desire and privilege over the devalued and suspect adoptee experience and voice. QUOTE: Sitting in my seat though, spending hours and hours with adopted people opposite me, I keep getting dumbstruck by how little our experience is viewed with the same amount of merit, outrage and pursuits for change. For those of us who continue to dare to change the system, it seems our reputation as someone with an axe to grind precedes us.
Welcome to the unofficial “Why the Adoption Establishment Annoys the Heck out of Us” blog week. Organized by Kevin Ost-Vollmers and Shelise Gieseke from Land of a Gazillion Adoptess, adoptabloggers will sketch out their own annoyances regarding that most sacred of cows. I don’t know who all is posting and when they will post, but whenever one arrives I’ll be sending out a link here. My own won’t be up until the end of the week. Today we kick off the fun with Native American journalist and memoirist Trace DeMeyer keeper of American Indian Adoptees: Lost Children, Lost Ones, Lost Birds. Trace writes up the Top 5 Reasons the Adoption Establishment Bugs the Heck Out of Me. Starting with (Lack of ) Disclosure and ending with Gratitude, Trace covers the gamut of adoption paternalism and interference that should be read out loud to every legislator in the remaining 43 closed states. QUOTE: I can hear the lobbyist pounding on their tables, “adoptees should be grateful they were adopted.” The adoption industry is a billion dollar business and they don’t want to lose a single dollar in profits. It’s about money. Even now, the adoption industry does not appreciate adoptees or Continue Reading →