Milking the Cash Cow: Don’t trust the adoption Industry to “navigate” your search and reunion

What does that mean? “Official search process?” Since I’ve never sat through a Barker session, I can’t say, but it sounds like “leave the driving to the Barker Foundation.” God forbid you, Little Bastard, should go out on your own and muck things up or worse be successful without the guiding hand of professionals. Peer support and assistance through local in-person groups or social media, Search Angels, PI’s contacting 2nd cousins on Ancestry. or extortion and bribery just won’t cut it. Autonomy must never be practiced.  Continue Reading →

Online Event: “ineradicable voices: narratives toward rerooting”

Based on oral history interviews with individuals who experienced transracial and/or intercountry adoption, 17 persons collaborated to create a special Zoom edition performance that carried the ethics at the heart of the process. Continue Reading →

Florida Baby Box Update: Ocala Marks the Spot!!

Still, that is a very dangerous number to float without clarification and correction. It’s wrong, Not only does it conflate traditional safe haven cases with baby box cases, the number “validates”  and popularizes baby boxing as a legitimate way to handle problematic and hidden pregnancies and birth and the social and economic situations that surround the baby box “choice”  as boxers like to call it.  I have seen this one hundred number show up in other stories recently and no one at SHBB is calling for a correction since it suits the agenda.  Unfortunately, an incurious media is immune from asking real questions and ends up a pusher of  “feel good” solutions to complex problems. Continue Reading →

Missouri. Another NAAM Moment: The Color Purple

Why are “fostercare”  and   “adoption” lumped in with numerous cancers, epilepsy, animal abuse, Khron’s Disease, Infantile Spasms, Hypokalemic Periodic Paralysis. and Sjogren’s Syndrome? I had to look up that last two. I mean, isn’t  NAMM a celebration and adoption a positive happy thing, not a debilitating disease? Perhaps, that’s a rhetorical question. Continue Reading →

New York State: Update on OBC Application Processing

Due to the Covid lockdown OBC processing has been delayed and very slow Here is an update, as of today, on the progress the Pre-Adoption Cert unit is making on sending out OBCs to New York adoptees who patiently–or not so patiently–have waited for their original birth certificates.  A substantial number–over 9.000– have been processed and/or sent. Continue Reading →

Taking the Joy Out of Writing: Hating #NAAM or the Adoptee Writer’s Lament

My steam flop happened because  I’m not working on my major writing projects. The ones that do bring me joy.  The ones I put aside for NAAM.  I’m sitting around the house scrolling through Twitter and Facebook looking for topics God knows there’s enough dreck to write about. Adoption is the gift that just keeps giving and giving. Not much, though, has moved me in the last few days, and I refuse to recycle. I really want to work on my projects, I want NAAM to go away.  NAAM is stealing my joy. Continue Reading →

Adoption Capitalism Reaches Its Bourgeois Limits: Adoption Contest

To win the grand prize—a fully funded adoption– the Allens and Frasers need to sell their pay-for-my-adoption t- and sweatshirts designed and manufactured by Fund the Nations to family, friends, and strangers for $20 a crack + $6.00 mailing. (Can I make this up? No. I’m not that clever.) Each item sold counts as one vote for the lucky PAPs. The contest ends midnight  Thursday, and the one with the most shirt sales votes wins. Continue Reading →

New York: Speaking of Safe Havens….

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….New York A9638 recently crossed my path. Sponsored by  Assb.Michaelle C.Solages,(D-#AD22.) the bill proposed two changes in the state’s child abandonment law.

  1. Making it illegal for parents to abandon children up to 16 years of age; the current maximum age is 14.
  2. raising the age a child can be left under the state’s Safe Haven law from 30 days of age to 16 years.,

this isn’t  some abstract implication–it’s written right into the bill:

A person is not guilty of the provisions of this section when he or
     9  she engages in the conduct described in subdivision one of this section:
    10  (a)  with  the  intent  that  the child be safe from physical injury and
    11  cared for in an appropriate manner; (b) the child is left with an appro-
    12  priate person, or in a suitable location and the person who  leaves  the
    13  child  promptly  notifies an appropriate person of the child's location;
    14  and (c) the child is not more than [thirty days] sixteen years old.

Apparently, nobody bothered to tell Rep Solanges about Nebraska. But I will!

Read Children of the Corn, my very extensive –sometimes day-by-day– account of the  Great Nebraska Fiasco of 2008 where dozens of inconvenient kids ended up dumped through the auspices of the ex-Nebraska Safe Haven law that allowed anyone from birth to 18 to be dumped.  Parents came from all over the country.  Over a 127- day period, 36 kids, including a number of teenagers, were tossed.  One dad dropped off 9 kids. Another kid tried to Safe Haven himself.  Here’s a summary of stats I compiled.

Asb Solanges has very solid and sane creds, so inquiring minds want to know where this came  from.   There is nothing wrong with raising the age for the prosecution of parents who abandon children up to the age of 16, but Safe Haven? Was this some sloppy targeting of unregulated re-homing?   That’s the only excuse that occurs to me, and that’s a stretch.

The bill went no farther than the Codes Committee, gathered no additional sponsors, and is now dead. I can’t imagine any Safe Haven advocate that I know personally supporting this weird tripe. Let’s hope it stays that way.

Thanks to Greg Luce for the tip!