We Lost Another One. In Memoriam: Addie Recoy (1965-2021)

Addie Recoy, longtime adoptee rights activist and Bastard National, passed away yesterday after a long battle with cancer, She celebrated her 56th birthday two weeks ago. Addie didn’t like attention and didn’t want the seriousness of her illness made public. Only a handful of very close friends knew, about her condition, and her passing has been a shock to us all. I don’t know if an obituary will be published, (if it is, I will add it)  but friends and colleagues are posting memories and condolences throughout social media. You can read some of their tributes on her Facebook page. Continue Reading →

Massachusetts House passes H2294. Now it’s the Senate’s turn! Adoptee rights move forward

Today the Massachusetts House passed H2294,  (Senate version s 1440) a bill to restore the right of all Massachusetts-born adoptees to their original birth certificates.  Current Massachusetts law allows adoptees in the state to obtain their original birth certificates without conditions or  restrictions at age 18 if they were adopted on or before July 17, 1974, or on or after January 1, 2008., This bill unseals records for those adopted between July 18, 1974, and December 31, 2008. Continue Reading →

My #NAM #NAAM 2021 Theme: A basket of….

A couple of weeks ago I watched The Bad Seed for the I don’t know how many ths times, and each time I love it more and see more in it.  (This time around I was particularly taken by the impressive airy mid-century apartment; and I do believe that as I get settled in Corpus Christi I need to start a neighborhood psychology club. I don’t know why I never thought of this before, but thanks to Rhoda I’ve decided to adopt/adapt her famous tagline as a centering point. Rhoda:  What will you give me for a basket of kisses? Col. Kenneth Penmark: A basket of kisses? Why, I’ll give you a basket of hugs! In my case, however, I’ve changed it up a bit. Adoption Industry: What will you give me for a basket of kisses? Bastardette:  A basket of kisses? Why, I’ll give you a basket of fucks Now, I doubt if I will be mean all month. Even I can’t sustain that, but I’ll give it the Old Bastard try. And in case, anyone is wondering…I  decided to hashtag  National Adoption Month as NAM or maybe NAAM if I feel like–and not what I really call it — Continue Reading →

Just in time for National Adoption Month: New Ohio law makes adoption “easier”

Yesterday, the State of Ohio launched Family Forward, a program that creates state-backed low-interest 5-year loan assistance of up to $50,000, to qualified but financially stressed-out PAP/HAPs seeking to “build their families through adoption.” The program was created by HB 405, a bi-partisan measure that passed the legislature unanimously in 2020. Continue Reading →

It’s Back! Welcome to National Adoption Month 2021 or whatever it is

Whatever we want to call it, the official hoo-haa, as usual,  ignores us altogether. Industrial adoption is hooting-up do-gooding family building. and colonizing. Evangelicals are saving babies from hyper-sexed trailer trash, abortitoriums, and Satanists. Happy-dappy adoptees are proving their worth by proving their gratitude. Continue Reading →

Lifetime Adoptions: A short mediation in two parts on “surrender” and ‘trust”

Right out the barn door, Ms Featherstone plays with language (again) throwing out to us the weird idea that a “private adoption plan.” is some kind of secret adoption plan. Now there is such a thing as “private adoption.” It’s the most common form of infant adoption where a parent(s) voluntary places an infant for adoption and choses adoptive parents through an agency, lawyer, or locates a family on their own. Obviously, then , a “private adoption” unless one tries to bypass law and ethics and stage a fake illegal adoption*, is a “normal” adoption. If we accept the looney equation of pregnancy secrets and “private adoption” as defined by Ms Featherstone, then what in the world is a “public adoption plan.” A paid ad in a newspaper announcing your intent to “surrender?” TikTik? Continue Reading →

Voluntary Donations v Public Funding: Ohio politician thinks taxpayers should pay for privately funded Safe Haven Baby Boxes

  One of the selling points for getting a town to install a Safe Haven Baby Box has been the claim that the cost of the box will not come out of taxpayer pockets. It’s all private voluntary contributions from the community. That’s not what one Ohio politician, however, has in mind. According to the September 19,  Dayton Daily News, Lebanon, Ohio  City Council member, local attorney, and forced-birth advocate* Adam Matthews says he plans to propose that the Lebanon City Council foot the bill for a box. He wants to add the $16,000 cost of the box and the $300/year maintenance fee to the city budget. Ohio cities already host 4 boxes (Defiance, Hicksville, Sunbury, Van Wert with another one  proposed in New Delhi Township near Cincinnati) and none of those towns reported spending public money on their boxes. In fact,  BST&G Fire District officials in Sunbury were clear that its then-proposed baby box was off the table unless enough funds to lease, install, and maintain it could be raised through private donors and grants. The first box in Ohio was installed in 2018, but none have been used. Contrary to Safe Haven Baby Boxes, Inc’s propaganda, Ohio does Continue Reading →

Maine: Who Knew? Safe Have Baby Boxes honor adoptees and their stories!

What fresh hell is this?  How does promoting sneak-dumping a newborn anonymously into a box in the wall at the local fire station honor adopted people or their stories?  How does it even honor the adopted promotors of this atrocious bill other than to get them an A-1 approval rating from the adoption-is-beautiful crowd? Continue Reading →

3.14 Action Fund: Raising political money on the backs of adoptees

Commercializing the Buttigieg adoption –raising political dollars on the backs of adoptees and the misery of others–lowers the adoption FU bar once more. The fundraiser is
crude,  distasteful and cloying.  It insults adopted people and validates the belief of a large number of adoptees that they are commodities– nothing more than a piece of furniture. In the case of this fundraiser, adoptees don’t even rate as an old couch much less a Van Der Rohe Barcelona chair. Continue Reading →