Bastardette has a long-standing love affair with Ontario. As a very young Bastard she was an occasional visitor to Sarnia (especially Scot’s Department Store) and when she grew up she spent a substantial amount of time with a gang of Ontario party-heartiers out of the Chrysler-Windsor plant and Point Pelee via the historic Goose Lake Festival. The former Mr. Bastardette (Mr. Bastard to you) lives in Revelstoke, British Columbia now with his third wife, so I shall reserve my opinion of that province for another day. (r: Bastardette with a potential Mr. Bastard 2, French-Canadian hunk”Carribou.”)

It has therefore been quite disappointing to see Ontario take the lead in North American bastard-baiting-hating and incessant fear mongering over the right to access.

The government of Ontario, represented by its wacky “Privacy Minister” Ann Cavoukian, has spent an inordinate amount of time and taxpayer money educating Ontarians to the dangers presented by the province’s Adopted Class. From claiming that some of Ontario’s first parents would commit suicide if The Adopted were to be treated identical to the Not Adopted--vis a vis allowed to own their own birth certificates under Bill 183–to accusing them of trying to shut her up, Miss Cavoukian has portrayed us as dangerous, crazy, street-running fascists poking our big noses into somebody else’s bedroom and skirts.

Here’s the text of a crocodile-tear drenched May 16, 2005 letter to Anne Stokes, Clerk of the Standing Committee on Social Policy, whining about us. And here’s an article from the Toronto Star in which Cavoukian claims some first mothers would commit suicide if their names were divulged to their unwashed bastards. Also go here and here for other accounts of Cavoukian’s hissy binge. (It appears that the Information and Privacy Commissioner’s page has either erased Cauvoukian’s most egregious comments–for privacy reasons, of course–or the URLs have changed. Whatever, some links I used earlier are no longer valid, and I’m forced to used secondary sources.)

Here’s Ann flipping out when some Ontario bastards filed suit claiming her statements about the Adopted Class breached a provision of Ontario’s Human Rights Code Following her usual MO, she wrote the response before she even read the complaint. How dare those saved-from-the-dumpster home wreckers dare to “silence” her, an over-academically credentialed, duly constituted representative of the government of Ontario and a certified privacy nanny? Auchtung!

This kind of complaint represents a grave threat to the public’s right to hear and participate in a vigorous public debate. Further it could have a chilling effect on the free speech of all Ontarians. Anyone advancing a dissenting view could be vulnerable to this kind of legal proceeding.

Eventually Bill 183 passed, went through teeth gnashing and court vetting, and as expected, Ontario continues to stigmatize adoptees and their first parents as a danger to each other, this time with new and improved disclosure and contact vetoes so dearly beloved by Dr. Cavoukian The Armenian Devil.

Things have been pretty quet, though, as regs were being written.

Then a few days ago, Ontario papers published a 1/3 page ad from the Ontario Government, which also appears on the Canadian government’s adoption information page warning adoptees and their first parents of their impending doom:


If you were involved in an adoption in Ontario, you need to know about an important change to your information and privacy rights.

Effective June 1, 2009, Ontario adoption records will be opened. This means adopted adults and birth parents will be given access to identifying information from birth records and adoption orders.

If the adoption order was made before September 1, 2008, adopted adults and birth parents can file a disclosure veto to prevent the release of the information.

If you want your identifying information to be kept private, you should file a disclosure veto before June 1, 2009.

No contact notices are also available.

To learn more about your rights to information and privacy regarding adoption, visit www.ontario.ca/adoptioninfo or call 1-800-461-2156 (TTY 416-325-3408).

Paid for by the Government of Ontario

Note that the government failed to mention something that might actually be helpful to those who want their records and other ID information and whose first parents want them to have them (and visa versa): a contact preference form is available. You have to go way over here , past the strum und drang, and scroll down to find that information. Why, you’d think the government wants the public to believe we’re a bunch hatchet killers.

Be sure to check out the video too, for the odd picture of martini sipping reunionists. Or maybe it’s a victory patio party at Cavoukian’s.


Not a martini sipping reunionst party

Tent burning: a fine old Ontarian custom. And he’s not even a bastard–as far as he knows.
Captain Supertest!


  1. “This kind of complaint represents a grave threat to the public’s right to hear and participate in a vigorous public debate. Further it could have a chilling effect on the free speech of all Ontarians. Anyone advancing a dissenting view could be vulnerable to this kind of legal proceeding”.
    Well, free speech should never include lying as a right-and that is all she does, lie about us, lie about Real Mothers-I guess “Birth Mother Privacy” is a universal con. The box she wants to shove Adoptees into, is outright hate speech-it’s good they are opening the records, but Ontario has a lot of nerve to kick Adoptees asses in all the way to the line they will wait in to to get them-Marley, I went out with an idiot from BC years ago-he was a whiny selfish crybaby whose sister was a, a, social worker…since I was a single Mother, she cut me down and said I was a Welfare Mom, he told me that- (which I never was) and she was very, very rude to me the first time I talked to her on the phone-he would call me collect and then try to make me feel bad because I told him the bill was high, he dropped garbage of his all over my house when he was here, he put spyware in my computer too, plus he was a total pothead and would watch neighbor’s kids stoned out of his mind in his trailer park in BC and would get mad at me when I told him he shouldn’t do that and my daughter was afraid of him when she met him so, Needless to say that ended, LOL. Maybe Mr. Bastard and Mr. Butthead know each other. Now that would be as scarey as Ontario’s Primeminister’s tall tales about us…

  2. Also, this:
    There has been considerable discussion lately about whether parties to adoption were in fact promised confidentiality. Some contend that there were no written guarantees of anonymity; others have advised that they were never promised confidentiality, and one birth mother informed us that she was given assurances that contact would be possible once her child turned 18 years of age.
    Contrary to these comments, there is evidence based on the correspondence, e-mails and telephone calls we have received, that many birth parents were in fact promised confidentiality. I would like to take this opportunity to quote from correspondence we received from one birth mother to this effect:
    …I made the hardest decision of my life 20 years ago alone with no family knowledge of my pregnancy or adoption. These proposed changes could completely upset my life as it stands today. My family know of nothing…I was told 20 years ago that my file was sealed and would not be opened without both consents…I am feeling completely overwhelmed at what I may be facing in 18 months…
    And from another:
    When I signed the adoption papers some 35 years ago, I was promised in a courtroom that my identity would be protected and that no identifying information about me would ever be released. I feel betrayed by the system”.
    What PROOF does she have that the emails and phone calls she got were REALLY from “birthmothers”? They could of been from Adoption Agency employees, social workers or even members of the NCFA. She doesn’t mention ANYTHING about checking out the (and I hate using htis word) legitimacy of those she claims she talked too. And why too, doesn’t anyone in the Candadian and US government, have the heart and the smarts to say, women who would even want idenity privacy from their own child IS A ROTTEN PERSON WITH NO MORALS(whcih that Mother would be) and she has NO right to abuse her own child like that. We have such a long way to go…

  3. Thanks for writing this. I just found her research, and was flabbergasted has she distorted findings from the material I also read. She seems to base conclusions from paranaoia, and ignore massive amounts of evidence, such as the overwhelming success of open records in Scotland, England, Wales, New Zealand, Israel, Oregon, Alaska, etc…

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