The B List: Bastardette’s Adoption Playlist

Writer Suzanne Gilbert (Tapioca Fire) posted her playlist of adoption search and reunion songs on Facebook today and asked if anyone else had their own. Looking around tonight for something to write about, I thought I’d glom off her idea. My songs, though, aren’t particularly about search and reunion but about adoption in general–how I’ve thought about and reacted to adoption over the last four decades. What affected me once, doesn’t necessarily affect me now, but when I hear it I think: a-ha adoption! Continue Reading →

Ohio: Bastard Bard Mary Gauthier Comes to Columbus!

Save the date!  Distribute Freely!  The great bastard bard Mary Gauthier will be performing here in Columbus on May 18. I first ran into Mary  over 10 years ago on WCBE.  I’d never heard of her.  I don’t remember the name of the song that was played and the word “adoption” wasn’t mentioned once. But Wowza!   I shouted  “that’s about being adopted.” It was.  And I googled her. Since then I’ve been a big fan.  Her May 2010 CD The Foundling, is a tour d’ force of her own adoption experience: The  songs (on The Foundling) tell the story of a kid abandoned at birth who spent a year in an orphanage and was adopted, who ran way from the adopted home and ended up in show business, who searched for birth parents late in life and found one and was rejected, and who came through the other side of all of this still believing in love–but speaks to us all no matter what our experience.It was named 3rd top CD of the year by the LA Times. My personal favorites are the title cut and “Blood is Blood”.  What bastard can’t  appreciate the absurdity of: adoptaspeak: When I was a child They Continue Reading →

Mary Gauthier: The Founding clip

Mary Gauthier is one of the great and grand treasures of AdoptionLand. She recently released a new CD, The Foundling, about…guess what! Below is a video of a live performance of the title song performed by Mary and Tania Elizabeth performed and at Joe’s Pub at the Public Theatre in June. On her webpage, Mary writes of the adoptee rights movement: There are so many people involved in the Adoptees Rights Movement. There are birth mothers who have grown and changed and come to a place where they want to meet their children, or have lost the chance to meet their own but recognize how valuable the knowledge of origin could be to the children who do seek. There are adoptees who are working together to counteract the shame and deep loss they’ve experienced, and to co-create a world where children are no longer seen as commodities. There are adoptive parents who see in their children their true natures, and honor them by letting the children keep their original names, taking them to where they came from, keeping in contact with birth parents when possible, showing them, quite literally, that their love for them does not hinge on them pretending Continue Reading →