I’m beginning to think that this should be Stop Radiance Foundation Month instead of National Adoption Month. Not a day goes by when I don’t retch or laugh or both at what shows up on its FB page. It is not a safe space for Bastards. I mean, if you think the I Am Adopted FB page is full of happy adoptees who will transform you into a diabetic in 10 seconds with their pink cotton candy and kool-aid, (even if half of them seem really angry) then RF is totally blissed out on it. Did somebody over there indulge on Purple Owsley and never come back? Forced pregnancy followed by happy relinquishment is the RF model.There’s no middle ground here.Unplanned pregnancy = abortion. The way RF propagandizes, you’d think no single women keep their kids. I’m not sure what one of RF: slogans “Be the Hope” means. Many adoptees have been acquired as the hope of childless couples (or singles, though I doubt RF supports that part of the deal.) Does any normal person want to be someone else’s hope? Has Bomberger ever talked to one of those`adoptee hope survivors? Don’t we, especially if we are adopted, have enough problems?
My most recent visit to RF, though was rather amusing. A “critique” of Scandal. Now, I don’t watch Scandal, but I know about it vicariously/ Now I think I should watch it because Olivia Pope had an abortion. Right on TV. An abortion. And she didn’t seem to regret it.. Oh, my! And adoption never crossed her mind. Oh dear!
For a good account of the episode go to Kevin Fallon’s review in the Daily Beast where he reminds us that it’s been 43 years since Maude had her infamous abortion..and not much has changed. I’d argue it’s gotten worse.
For a lousy review go to the Radiance Foundation:-
Not a fan of sleazy #Scandal TV show. Even less of a fan of #ABC that lets a Planned Parenthood Board member provide a free (mis)infomercial for the corrupt abortion chain (you know…the show where the main character is having an abortion to “Silent Night”). Yup. Writer/Creator Shonda Rhimes is an active Board Member of Planned Parenthood Los Angeles. Hollywood is about delivering truth as much as Planned Parenthood is about delivering babies (alive).
The abortion itself (and its parallel storyline about Planned Parenthood defunding) was bad enough for the RF director (or whoever writes for Bomberger on FB) He sputters out the privilege card as if the wealthy are duty-bound to procreate since they can afford to.That is, is there any reason for a wealthy woman to get an abortion? If you don’t want to be pregnant, so what? Of you don’t want to be a mother, so what? It’s what Bomberger calls “convenience”.and I call personal autonomy and ownership, something the rich and poor and in between share. Olivia didn’t want to be pregnant, no matter how much the essentialist head of the Radiance Foundation wants her to be a brood mare for her Republican lover. She could have at least gone through nine months of pregnancy and found a desperate and childless WASP couple to take on the white man’s burden.
Now here’s where it gets really amusing. To Ryan Bomberger’s dismay, Scandal creator Shodna Rhimes is a board member of the Los Angeles office of Planned Parenthood (so is Madmen creator and showrunner Matt Weiner) and “Hollywood is about delivering truth as much as Planned Parenthood is about delivering babies (alive)” Ryan must not get to the movies or watch TV much where abortion is seldom spoken of in positive terms, and fantasies are filmed of, newborns happily handed off to deserving couples without a look back has been going on for a hundred years. Lately think of Juno..
.Who’s being realistic here: Ryan Bomberger or Shonda Rhimes? Abortion is not a big deal for lots of women. Adoption, though, is.I don’t know how many birthmothers I’ve heard say over the years that if they’d known what adoption was going to do to their lives, they’d have had abortions.
But here’s the kicker. Shonda Rhimes loves adoption as much as Ryan Bomberger does–maybe more–only she’s not into forced pregnancy and mandatory adoption. She is, in fact, the adoptive mother of two daughers, Harper (2002) and Emerson Pearl (2012) and the mother of a third, Beckett, (2013) through gestational surrogacy. Here’s what Shonda wrote about adoption on her WhoSay blog:
Now, you know how much I love adoption and how serious I am about adoption and how I will fight you like a wild woman if you try to tell me anything bad about adoption because adoption is awesome. Adoption rocks. Adoption made me a mother and built my family and just…broke open my heart in the most amazing ways. Adoption is everything for me. If you are thinking about adopting, I encourage you to DO IT. I encourage you to learn everything you can about it and yourself and then DO IT, DO IT, DO IT…Anyway, I don’t actually think it matters HOW a child comes into your family. Bio, not bio, infant adoption, older child adoption, c-section, surrogacy, egg donor, sperm donor, embryo adoption, whatever…children are amazing. They are a gift. We shouldn’t be worrying about HOW they got here. I don’t worry about it.
While I find Shonda’s enthusiasm for family building a bit over the top and don’t agree with her on some points,she’s certainly more fun and genuine than the Radiance Foundation’s couch jumping lalalanders who bombast each day with tales of Jesus saves and happy adoptees ever after with nayr a word about adoptee rights..
People can be enthusiastic supporters and promoters of adoption and of women’s health and reproductive justice at the same time. We don’t expect the Bombergers of the world to try it, though. They’e sold their souls to adoption and adoptee bodies to the state…