The displacement for me is the acrobatics of adoption,. The handsprings, the way our identities, our histories, our origin, ourselves are tossed into the air, twisted and turned. The tightwire we walk between our adoptee reality and our forced pretense. What the rest of the world sees and believes cluelessly and what we know intimately Continue Reading →
As I suspected he would, Donald Trump (AKA his keepers) finally got around to issuing the traditional National Adoption Month Presidential Proclamation. I found this in the Federal Registry, dated November 17, 2025…But…Do we really want the imprimatur of Trump on our foreheads? Continue Reading →
No bill number is listed in the press release, and I can’ find it by name on the US Senate Legislative page, so it’s just been dropped with no action yet. Without reading the details I can’t critique, endorse or diss it, but if there is nothing in language hidey-holes it looks good- (for once!). This is something adoption reformers have practically begged for for decades: kicking adoption facilitators– aka leeches, crooks, frauds–out of business. Continue Reading →
Here we are, November 20, 2025, and nearly 2/3 through NAM/NAAM. It’s the middle of the night, and I have nothing to say…writing every day about adoption and its adjacents is a killer. And, so limiting. I want to jump out the window, but we live in a 1-storey house, and I could only crawl out the window, if I could get it open Continue Reading →
or a long time I have questioned some of the origin story of Monical Kelsey, the CEO/founder of SHBB Inc. I believe that much of it is true as told, but there is some artful dodging at the same time. One thing that has really bothered me for years is her narrative that she was abandoned at the hospital by her mother 2 hours after birth. Continue Reading →
A couple weeks ago, I interviewed with Roni Dori from Calcalist, the largest business publication in Israel, regarding adoptee opposition to Safe Haven Baby Boxes. The official English language article will be out next week, and I think it will be online. But in the meantime, here is the original, which you can translate with Google. Translate. Continue Reading →
Below is the list of questions political watchdog Chris Hicks attempted to ask SHBB Inc CEO/Founder Monica Kelsey at last week’s baby box opening in Hamilton, Ohio. Instead of being professional and answering them or politely declining, she called for Security and ran away. Each question is reasonable and something that a member of any legislature might ask–and in some cases has asked. Did she run out of the hearing room? Call for the state patrol? Continue Reading →
he Adoption-Safe Haven Baby Box thread caught my eye, bringing a new insanity to Safe Haven discourse. “Yes Adoption. Pro-Life will often say that there is no difference between a human life that is born and a life that is unborn. So if those that are born can be adopted, let the unborn be adopted as well.“ Continue Reading →
We are halfway through NAM/NAMM and have yet to see the annual NAM/NAM Presidential Proclamation. We’ve gotten one every year for years even during Trump 1. What’s going on?…I’m glad he’s ignoring us. I don’t want the good name of Bastard sullied by his pathetic orange self. We are messed with enough without his grubby small fingers poking into our business Continue Reading →
But none of the anti-adoption groups are as purposefully virulent and proudly radical as the tiny, aggressive , and unfortunately named, “Bastard Nation,” spawned by angry adult adopted adults who found each other on the internet on alt.adoption Continue Reading →