There’s a good discussion on the New York Times Motherlode Adopted children, by the numbers. Blogger Lisa Belkin sure does know how to piss off bastards! Some of our friends are posting including regular Bastardette commenters. I’ve posted twice so far. My last response, which I’m re-posting here, is in a reply to #14 PW:
Based upon their negative comments, I am curious if the adult adoptee commenters feel they would have been better off had they NOT being adopted?
Here’s what I said:
Whether someone feels if they’d been better off not being adopted isn’t the point.
What we are talking about here is the systematic, state-facilitated erasure of identity and history from the adopted and the continued discrimination adoptees are subjected to as a result.
While there are definitely psychological/identity issues for many who are adopted, I’m speaking specifically of legal discrimination. First and foremost, the sealing of our birth certificates from ourselves. Adoptees are the only class of people who the government forbids from accessing their own birth certificates. The original birth certificates of adoptees are impounded by the state when an adoption is finalized, sealed, and held under lock by government authorities. States, in fact, keep the original birth certificates of adopted persons in a locked vault separate from the birth certificates of the not adopted.
The adoptee is then issued a state-forged document which may or may not be accepted by other government and private entities as valid. Passports, drivers licenses , professional certifications, security clearances, and pensions are all based on proof of identity. In some instances, these entitlements (and more) are denied adopted persons. Passports seem to a growing issue, and I’m seeing more reports of other “entitlement” access problems, too. When REAL ID and similar laws come into effect, every adopted person in the US, unless she or he can prove who they are–a state-forged document doesn’t count–can be considered a security risk.
The bottom line is that adoptees are statute-created lab rats, the product of social engineering and eugenics, gone bad. Adoptees are subjected to government identity erasure, construction, and manipulation. It makes no difference if someone is in a “good adoption” or not. It’s about state control of our identities, history, relationships–and civil rights.
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There’s also help needed on the Find My Family discussion board, especially this thread: Amended birth certificates are legalized, falsified documents. (I haven’t posted yet myself, but will. I tried the other night, but CBS flagged “Bastard Nation” as an offensive word). watched last night’s show. My only comment is: GAK! If you missed it you can watch it online.
Hey Marley, I’m in the mood, so I’ll try to respond….and I’ll try to be nice! LOL!
Thanks, Marley!!! You totally rock. Oodles of bastardette hugs for you!!!!
I have posted comments several times on the discussion thread of “Adopted Children By the Numbers”.
The one thing that kept flooring me over and over and over from the A.Parents side was the viewpoint given based upon their adopted CHILD.
How can anyone possibly think that all would hold true once that CHILD becomes a free-thinking, educated, tax paying, community contributing adult?
It just blew me away. I am no longer that freaking child! I don’t need protection and I defintely don’t need someone speaking on what they think is my “best interests”.
There are very good things about adoption. Yes, we all agree on that. But, COME ON….you are going to deny that it is a total CASH COW that closed states, and now countries that we have infected, don’t want to touch with a 10 foot pole?
Well, if you don’t see that then go ahead and climb back into your “ADOPTION WONDERLAND”!
When we adopted our son in 2004 he we were given a birth certificate with his birth mothers name and all on it then later sent a revised one so we have both. That was in Florida. Our son from Ethiopia has a made up birth certificate because they don’t even really know his age.
I like reading your blog. As an mom who adopted two of my children and plan to adopt more, I like reading your and your commenters perspective.
So, with that said I will throw this out there, I am not for a completely open adoption, which is so popular now. I think children should be told they are adopted, talk with them freely and answer all questions. BUT I think the child should be grown and be able to decide for themselves, as consenting adults, if they want contact with the birth family. Since our son was born he has seen his biological grandmother once a year and that has been great. But his birthmother got crazy acting after the adoption and we had to cut off that contact. She now gets pictures and stuff through her mother but we don’t allow contact, mainly for our sons health and safety.
I am a mom who loves my kids, every one of them, 100%.