A really revolting blog appeared today on DKos: Artificial Insemination is NOT Perverse – Exclamation Point
We get a call from Texas. A pregnant teen saw our ad and wants us to adopt her baby. HURRAY! We fly down to Texas. We see the baby. Adorable! Cute! A baby! We hold the baby. The mom signs the papers. But where is the bio-dad? Off in Oklahoma. He says he’ll sign. But then he can’t find a fax machine. Then the mom decides she wants the baby herself.
I almost committed suicide over that (thanks to my wife for stopping me).
I’m not doing that again.
We have two kids by artificial insemination. We chose the donor father from a book. They’re our kids.
And we’re NOT perverse. Period.
I found the entry so annoying that I hot-wired my seldom-used DKos account to post this quick reply.
Artificial insemination may not be perverse (0 / 0)
but to purposefully choose to bring two children into the world via anonymous sperm donors chosen through a book–is perverse and unethical. Do you plan to tell your children how they were conceived or will it be your “little secret.” What happens if you don’t tell them, and they learn later? I hope you’ll tell them when age appropriate; otherwise, you’ve got a potential disaster ahead of you.
Your insulting comments about the potential first mother who decided to keep her child kind of says it all. You cry about not having your own kids, and complain when she keeps hers. She had no duty to be your incubator. Why is she selfish, and you’re not? No one has a right to somebody else’s child.
But, every person has a right to identity, and it appears you have erased half of your kids, and are proud of it. Why? You are your kids’ father in every sense of the word but the biological. As an adopted person who fights for the right of identity every day, I find this selfishness disgusting and emblematic of so much that is wrong w th adoption and ART today.
I was tempted to add a snark that if somebody is so unstable that they “almost committed suicide” when they were denied ownership of somebody else’s baby it’s a good thing, but let it go.
PS. Since I posted my response, the blogger came back with a 1-liner that his kids know about their conception.
Addenda 1: It looks like as of about 3:45 PM or earlier, all of my comments on DKos but one were removed. I guess I’m a troll.
Addenda 2: Maybe I’m wrong I found a couple of them. I have a hard time getting around DKos.
Addenda 3: Baby Love Child, who has also been battling this stupid thread on DKos has also posted a blog: On so-called secrecy.