NAM/NAAM Day 7: Here's an Idea for NAM/NAAM: Stop Killing Adoptees!

Moses Farrow has posted a stunning short piece on the murder of adoptee Nubia Docter, 10. Over the years I’ve reported several cases of adopteecide. To the best of my knowledge, there is no real study of adopteecide, but I’d have to do some deep digging to verify this. Moreover, I am sure there are scholarly papers out there somewhere, behind a paywall, but who knows? There is probably, also, some work buried in studies or papers on foster care, child abuse, and domestic violence. The closest work I know of comes from Kathryn Joyce, who has written extensively on adoption corruption and wrote an important book several years ago, The Child Catchers: Rescue, Trafficking and the New Gospel of Adoption, that includes adopteecide.

My blog Nikto Ne Xabyt–Nichto Ne Zabyto/ Nobody is Forgotten/Nothing is Forgotten (Никто не забыт. Ничто не забыто documents the abuse and murder of children from Russia and former Soviet republics by US adopters. Due to technical problems with Blogspot that don’t seem fixable, I can’t get into it, but…since Russia halted all adoptions to the US, in 2014, I have not seen much to add, though I’m sure it’s out there somewhere. When I have the time, I need to write about the political kidnapping and adoption of Ukrainian children by the Putin regime. The weaponization of adoptees and adoption is an exhausting worldwide cancer.

Nubia’s murder happened in 2011, and I think it is the worst case of not only adoptee abuse but child abuse that I’ve seen. I am not reposting Moses’ post in its entirety, but here is a preview. Please go to Moses’s FB page to read his post then and comment. and repost.

She was described in school as having uncontrollable hunger, stealing money for ice cream, jittery, hair falling out. The teacher reported a detailed record and history on Nubia, yet the case was dismissed and no services were put in place. The abuse continued in the home. Beatings, hitting, punching, and bindings including being hogtied. Ice water poured on them, mouths taped, hit with a mop, punched in the mouth, choked, forced to eat a cockroach, eyes crazy glued shut.

The abuse was reported repeatedly to Florida DCS . The department never acted on the complaints since according to a Miami-Dade Grand Jury Report, it doesn’t much delve into reported abuse in foster and adoptive families. (More about that below)

Here is a long news story that recounts Nubia’s torture and murder in detail. I have never done a trigger warning in all my years of blogging, but in this case: Trigger Warning. (Wiki also has a page on the murder.

Here is July 2, 2025 article on the upcoming trial of the adoptive “father.” And yes, you read that right! Upcoming! 2025! Through “extensive legal proceedings ” involved around his competency. he’s managed to avoid a trial for 14 years. Apparently unhappy with his legal team s (he’s switched off a lot) who have kept him off of Death Row for 14 years ,he says he wants to go pro se. The adoptive “mother,” copped a plea deal in 2020, agreed to testify against her husband and is doing a life sentence.

Nubia’s surviving twin brother and her biological relatives sued DCS, and in 2017 were awarded $5 million.

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The Miami Herald reports that Nubia is 1 of 477 children over a 7-year period that died of neglect or abuse AFTER they came to the attention of the Florida Department of Children and Families.

The Fall 2010 Session of the Miami-Dade Grand Jury issued Nubia’s Legacy: Confronting the Bias and Complacency the Child Welfare System. It includes: (bold is mine):

The sad reality is if the Barahonas had been the biological parents of Victor and Nubia, a more thorough investigation probably would have been conducted following the various reports called into the Hotline. If the Barahonas had not been foster parents, instead of getting a “pass,”Chlid Protective Investigators and Case Managers might have engaged in more critical thinking as it related to the “big picture” of what was happening with the kids.

Wow! Adopters and fosterers get a free ride. We are othered in the worst way possible.

Later the Grand Jury issued, Continuing Nubia’s Legacy: Follow-up to the Fall 2010 Report which recounted changes DCF had made after Nubia’s death as well as further recommendations, including making child welfare a major staffing and funding priority for the state.

I have no idea what happened after those reports, though staff and funding were increased. I found a Child Welfare Outcomes /HHS page full of stats, but I am not statistician or welfare professional and hesitate to draw any conclusions from them.

A 2024 DCS press release announced the latest funding allocations from the state, which include: – SURPRISE! –-$13.5 million to support families that have already adopted and an additional $9.3 million to increase and expand access to adoption incentives for families that choose to adopt from foster care.

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So here we are today

NAM/NAAM where the adoption industry celebrates the” beauty of adoption” either by ignoring us or expects us to fall in line. Hut-2-3-4!

Obviously, all adoptees don’t end up like Nubia, but abuse and death are not anomalies. Adoption is a political system that exploits the vulnerable and weaponizes adoptees and adoption, with a machine as dirty as the NRA. The system is rife with abuse of all kinds–sealed adoption records, unethical and illegal adoption practices, special interests inside and outside of the adoption industry, Christian fetishism, shame, coercion, money grubbing, money laundering, physical mental, and emotional abuse, trafficking, political corruption and tomfoolery and lack of support for pregnant people and new mothers in problematic pregnancies. The system does not promote family preservation. There is no money in

These facts are erased –over-ridden–by adoption mythology that floods legislatures, churches (especially evangelical), and the incurious media, all of which spread it to the public. Nothing highlights this pandering like NAM/NAMM’s “celebration” and media blitz.

The only spaces Class Bastard has are social media, blogs, and small or obscure publications, adoptee right organizations and shouting out the truth in legislative hearings. Sometimes the media gets it and talks to us. Mostly not.

Adoptees are othered in the worst possible way.

Adoptees are tasked, as usual, with cleaning up the mess that the industry and its panderers and sycophants leave behind. Unfortunately, nobody can clean up what happened to Nubia. We remember and honor her and all of our sisters and brothers who have suffered though the “beauty of adoption, :and work to top this horror in the future.

RIP Nubia. And and all the others.

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